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• Reader of Dooce // Jun 17, 2006 at 2:33 am

  GEORGE! Personally, I see no problem with this AS LONG AS it’s done appropriately. You shouldn’t just call her up and blurt out that you like her - as if that was your sole purpose for calling. Work it into the conversation and approach it in a way that shows her complete honesty.. let her hear that you’re being genuine. Hope it works!

• Katie // Jun 17, 2006 at 7:28 am

  I don’t think there’s anything wrong with telling her on the phone, but don’t puss out when she gets back and act like you didn’t talk about it…

• Jess // Jun 17, 2006 at 7:33 am

  I’d do it over the phone, and if someone did that to me over the phone I definitely wouldn’t think of them as a puss. I mean, my boyfriend of four years asked me out over the phone, so it’s not a bad thing, I don’t think anyways.

• Rachel // Jun 17, 2006 at 7:48 am

  Ya know my first reaction was don’t do it that way. Although, I don’t think that it is crumby. But, if it were me and I sincerely thought that it could lead to big things I would wait. Let the tension mount and have it all planned out when she gets back. My husband and became a couple under similar circumstances and it was me in your shoes. It was such a great feeling when I finally told him. If yall are meant to be together it will all work out. Don’t let that guy thing scare you. Fate…..

• elizabeth // Jun 17, 2006 at 9:19 am

  Ok, so here’s my first time comment: I think the best way to handle this is to not completely spill your guts on the phone. There’s some girl psychology here. We tend to think…way overthink..things boys say to us. So I would suggest that you bring it up on the phone, say you’d like to discuss it when she gets home, and let her mull it over. If she likes you, even if she meets that hot guy on vacation, that little seed you planted will be germinating in her brain, and the possibilities of what may be will be more important than hot guy. Good luck.

• Rocky // Jun 17, 2006 at 9:55 am

  You must follow the sage teachings of Harold and Kumar. You’ll remember that Kumar wisely chose to “tell the girl” before she left for a trip. And he wasn’t even high. Then.

• Oregon Girl // Jun 17, 2006 at 1:23 pm

  Hey George– came across your blog through your famous cousin’s blog and have been reading ever since….

  My advice: Call her. Ask her how her vacation is going. Tell her you’ve been thinking A LOT about her and would just love to get together for some one-on-one time when she gets back (unless she’s a Mormon girl and needs to do the “group date” thing). **hoping she’s not Mormon so you get some good one-on-one time**

  And you know… one last “hot guy fling” before you meet up w/ the man of your dreams ( that’d be you, dude!) isn’t always a bad thing.

  Good Luck, DORJ! We love ya out here in cyberland!

• Sieue // Jun 17, 2006 at 5:53 pm

  Just ring her, DORJ!, and be honest with her. If she is the right girl for you she will respond positively. If she doesn’t then it wouldn’t have worked anyways.

  Also listen to Oregon Girl - she has more detail.

• Narami // Jun 17, 2006 at 7:46 pm

  My vote is: over the phone after you manage a nice conversation. Make her laugh, tell her you’ve been thinking about her… be charming.
  Just make sure when she gets back you bring it up again.

• L'aura // Jun 17, 2006 at 8:57 pm

  You don’t have to say the words “I like you”. Just say “Maybe we can get some dinner when you get back.” Or a movie or coffee or whatever. It’s good on the phone too because it’s less akward if she says no. You don’t have to see each others facial expressions. I also agree with the “planting a seed” thing. We girls LOVE to have something to be excited/obsessed over, which she will be for the rest of her vacation. She’ll be thinking about you the whole week!

• deb // Jun 17, 2006 at 11:48 pm

  awww!!!
  i say, tell her right before she leaves, on the phone or in person it doesnt matter as long as you say the right words and dont come off as a prick or anything. then tell her she can just go on vacation with that information and tell you what she thinks when she gets back…give it ample time to soak in.
  trust me george, i am world-renouned for my advice giving…seriously…

• Julie // Jun 18, 2006 at 2:36 am

  Tell her when she gets back. Anything over the phone is pussing out. Would you break up with someone over the phone?

• bb // Jun 18, 2006 at 10:53 am

  I would SO tell her over the phone. Not necessarily because she might meet some hot guy, but because it holds so many advantages:
  1- It’s not AS awkward as saying it in person (chilling together as friends and all of a sudden, I like you! uhh now what?)
  2- She gets the chance to think it over and get excited even…excited to get back, excited to see you, excited to know where this goes..
  3- It’ll give you the chance to plan out a fab date, something really spectactular for her for when she gets back so that she sees how much you care.

  Let us know how that goes!

  ps. Does she read your website? Cuz then she’d DEFINETELY know

• Cass // Jun 18, 2006 at 1:22 pm

  Just wait until she comes home. She’s not gonna meet someone she’s gonna date on vacation. Also, why tell her you like her? Just ask her out. I think she’ll get the idea.

• Nic // Jun 18, 2006 at 6:27 pm

  I agree with Cass! Wise woman. Plus, if it was me i’d rather be told in person than over the phone :). Good luck. x

• Steph // Jun 18, 2006 at 9:50 pm

  I say text her. She’ll read it over and over again and get all goose pimply if she likes you back…. She’d like to have it.

  I’m just sayin.

• katielauren // Jun 19, 2006 at 2:58 am

  Get drunk and do it… thats what I did to my boyfriend 3 years ago, and we are now getting married. Only I said something about putting on my “hooker boots” and I dont think you should say that part:)

• Tiggerlane // Jun 19, 2006 at 2:57 pm

  Too late, I’m sure — but I would DEFINITELY plant the seed before vacation.

  I would NOT blurt out “I like you” on the phone - that almost seems like middle-school-note-passing stuff.

  Ask her to go out on a “real” date, maybe? You could do that on the phone, but wait until you are in-person to express any feelings. And honestly, you’ll be able to gauge the reaction to your expression much better in person - and maybe even know whether it’s wise to do it at all! If she’s anticipating it on the date, then she’ll send signals one way or the other, before you actually have to go out on a limb.

  I don’t know how many women you have dated - but if she touches your arm and stuff a lot, that’s a good sign.

• Joeythegirl // Jun 19, 2006 at 6:59 pm

  It would have been better to tell her before she left on vacation. If you’re worried she’ll find her Knight in shinning armor on vacation, then it wasn’t mean to be anyway. But I say if you want to call her, then call her, be honest and tell her how you feel.

• Piglet // Jun 19, 2006 at 7:35 pm

  Calling her or texting is too common. I say rent yourself a white horse, find out when she’ll be home. Ride up to her house on the horse, with flowers and ask her if she’s available for dinner and a horse ride.

  Not that I could have EVER made the first move on anyone myself, but for me and many other women I know this is a totally awesome way to be approached. My Mom had a friend that did that years ago and the woman ended up marrying him. (Not to say that you are looking for marriage right off or anything).

  I say try to be unique and romantic, you have nothing to lose. Women love to be swept off our feet. Go big, George, go big. Life’s too short.

• Chris // Jun 19, 2006 at 9:26 pm

  Yeah…how about you fly out there on a penguin and go to her hotel window and break her window with a stone and ask her?

  Anyway, I think if you just give hints and ask her on a date for after her vacation she’ll be all happier then…something.

  Good luck man, and just be confident and don’t just unload your feelings. You’re the man take charge and show your leadership.

• Laura // Jun 20, 2006 at 7:29 am

  TEXT

• Nora // Jun 20, 2006 at 4:47 pm

  This is a tough one. I say that if the white horse or penguin aren’t available, then either tell her over the phone (so if there is awkwardness it can be covered by “phone static” or “another call coming in”) or just don’t tell her. I mean, it’s always weird when someone just blurts out, “I LIKE YOU!” Just act like you like her, girls are known for their intuition and sooner or later she’ll pick up what you’re throwing down. BUT DO NOT TEXT HER, I think I would puke through my nose if someone sent me a text message about that. But that’s just me.

• Piglet // Jun 20, 2006 at 10:18 pm

  My point, and I do have one

  Just be original for the love of God. There are not enough real live originals out there.

• minxlj // Jun 21, 2006 at 4:56 am

  George, you’re too sweet! (in a good way). Personally, I wouldn’t object to someone calling me and saying that, so if that feels easier for you just do it. Admit that you’re a little nervous about saying it face to face and that’s why you’ve called, I’m sure she’ll be OK with that. Anyone who genuinely likes you is nervous about saying it, it always happens.

  Of course, if she says she likes you back then you’ll be wishing you said it face-to-face so you could erm, embellish on it (LOL)

  Good luck G, and let us know how things go!!!!

• heather // Jun 22, 2006 at 2:29 pm

  comment on her blog

• Don Lapre is a Superstar // Dec 12, 2006 at 4:50 am

  Hey George!!!!!!!!! You try in phone itself ma. And You tell her that you think about her often and you are restless. And just ask once again, when she will be back? Sure,it will work.Best of Luck…….ma.

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