Times like these at night I sit and wonder what some of my close friends/family are thinking. It probably isn’t a whole lot, because most normal people are asleep at this hour. I say normal, because I am not normal, and I am up. If I was normal I’d totally be sleeping right now, because sleeping is just that damn good. Anyway, recently a lot of my friends have been getting engaged. This is INSANE to me, because they range from 18 to 20 years old, and I really don’t think they should be getting married yet. Especially with the short lived dating experiences some of them have had in the past(first hand experience), and the rushed into engagements (2 months dating anyone?). INSANE!!!! (FOUR, I’m just that serious!)
What are they thinking? What are they looking forward to? Stumbling through life wondering if you’re going to be able to pay next months bills AND buy groceries? SIGN ME UP! I don’t need that in my life right now. I like staying up late and playing XBox and being a man (shutup I turn 20 this month) without obligations. Some of them actually tell me that they’re incredibly scared and don’t know if it’s the right person, I think now would be a good time to find that out. Just a thought.
Man some people are stupid. Some of these marriages could have been avoided if you would have used a condom. I know this because Jon gave me that advice himself before I said goodbye the last time I saw him. He’s a good cousin-in-law, not many people can be so lucky. Plus, nobody likes a bastard child. Ok that was mean, I’m sorry. I love bastard children, according to my brothers growing up I was an accident as well. Jerks…
Even though I have the urge to get married right now, I’m not going to pick the first girl that dry humps my leg (sorry). And even though Leta is the most amazing baby to ever live on planet Earth, I don’t want one of my own bad enough right now to NEED a baby anytime in the next 5 years. I can definitely wait. Some of my friends should have looked into this waiting thing, they may be happier 5 years from now if they had decided to. Or maybe they’ll prove me wrong and totally shove it in my face, if that’s the case, they can totally burn in hell.
15 responses so far ↓
Anonymous // Jan 5, 2005 at 3:23 am
1.) But George….what about our wedding? You promised… :/ sigh.
2.) No, but I do know what you mean. I know a few girls that are 18-20, are with their first serious boyfriend and are engaged. You know how I feel about marriage anyways…but when its happening at such a young age and the people are going into it like you said? Eh. I don’t think too highly of it but, live and let live…huh? It’s sad though that a lot of these kids getting married are going to get divorced within a couple years.
3.) You’re almost 20! awww
Such a youngin’
-the one, the only, annette.
Random and Odd // Jan 5, 2005 at 3:57 am
I was married at 20. Yeah. THAT WAS REALLY F’ING STUPID.
I have three wonderful girls and I wouldn’t change a thing now, but yeah, if my daughters try to pull that shit I will kill the man that asked them.
’nuff said, i’m going to bed.
Anonymous // Jan 5, 2005 at 7:14 am
George, tell your friends to RUN! DON’T WALK! away from the wedding. I got married when I was 19, and I really regret it now. My husband is a great guy, but we’re totally different people now than we were as 19-year-olds. I know it works for some people, but it doesn’t for most.
And don’t expect them to listen to you. I wouldn’t listen to anyone who told me it was a bad idea. Duh. Some people just need the life experience to realize what they’re doing is INSANE!
sam
Anonymous // Jan 5, 2005 at 7:37 am
I must say my group of friends is a mixed lot. About half got married when they were around 20 or so.. becky waited til about 26 or so and everyone else is dating or in a serious relationship, but not married. we’re all 30 and above now.. it’s all _very_ Bridget Jonesy.. but without the drinking.. and the fun.. and hugh grant..
cheers!
Jules
smockblog.com
Anonymous // Jan 5, 2005 at 7:40 am
Right on, George. I got married at 24, which was still too young. We’re still married (and very happily), but I think it’s about equal parts hard work and luck that it’s working out so well (four and a half years in…).
lulu c.
Holy Schmidt // Jan 5, 2005 at 7:41 am
I also married when I was 19. I was just stupid and thought that I could change him, blah, blah, blah.
Until you have made it through college, lived on your own, lived with a roomate and have had SEVERAL serious relationships, there is NO WAY that you can be sure of who you are, or that someone is the person that you want to spend the rest of your life with.
You have to find and love yourself first. If someone tells you “but, she’s the one”, tell them that if she’s the one, you can wait 4 or 5 years to get married. If they love you, they will wait!
:Rant off:
kat // Jan 5, 2005 at 7:57 am
SIX of my friends have gotten engaged in the last six months. SIX!!! I’m 26, and I still think that’s way too early to be getting hitched. But maybe that’s just my fear of comittment talking.
Jazzy // Jan 5, 2005 at 8:57 am
George! Welcome to the wide world of blogging. And Welcome back to Texas. We’re happy to have you here. I like your outlook on life and the marriage thing. I just recently got married at 29 and looking back, I am so glad I did not get married early. You don’t even know who you are when you are 20 much less who someone else is going to be.
Anonymous // Jan 5, 2005 at 9:00 am
Ah, GEORGE! such a fine attitude. Could you come to Illinois and shout about it? Thank goodness my younger sons have the same idea, and the girls they are with right now are not putting on any pressures.
There are a few people of my acquaintance who had one of those “practice” marriages that happened when both members of the couple were young, then grew up and apart.
Giving advice does not always make friendship stronger. Sitting in the hall at the courthouse, holding a hand that will soon be signing divorce papers, is not a nice memory. ~~MrsDoF
Anonymous // Jan 5, 2005 at 9:02 am
I got married at 22. To me, it’s a young age to marry, but my husband and I were expecting at the time. Marriage is hard work, and oftentimes I think my husband and I are childish and have a lot of growing up to do. Our marriage is doing well so far and I love my husband (and daughter) more than anything. Because of that I don’t regret getting married early. Some people who get married early, however, aren’t so lucky.
Have fun while you’re young and single!
spoonleg // Jan 5, 2005 at 9:02 am
I already stumble through life wondering if I can pay the bills. I don’t need someone else’s debt to worry about. I called many of my college friends idiots to their faces because they got married while we were STILL IN COLLEGE. Hello, moron, what’s the rush? YOU’RE BROKE AND TIRED AND STRESSED OUT AND TRYING TO PASS NEXT WEEK’S EXAM YET YOU THINK THAT A HUSBAND IS A GOOD IDEA? Delusional, that’s what it is. Most people must lack the common sense to realize that if this is the person you want to marry, they will still be available for the marriage in 6 months when you graduate. The bottom line is, most people just can’t wait that long to hump.
That one chick // Jan 5, 2005 at 9:08 am
HEY! I’m 20 and married and have a beautiful baby girl. It was OUR choice to be married our daughter was almost a year before we married because we wanted to make the right decision!!! We did NOT get married because we have a child, but because we love each other. We’ve been together since freshman year of high school, we both attend Baldwin Wallace College, which here in Ohio is one of the best schools around. We have our own apartment and don’t recieve any financial help, unlike everyone seems to think a younger couple with a child does. I don’t appreciate people assuming that we are doomed to divorce just because we married young. I’m not criticizing anyone’s opinions or disagreeing that a lot of people my age aren’t ready to get married but how about giving the one’s who are a little credit??
heidi // Jan 5, 2005 at 10:10 am
I married in my early 20s and had a child. While I did miss out on early adulthood independence and the whole dating scene, I wouldn’t change a thing because I have a wonderful marriage and an amazing daughter. But while your single, live it up and enjoy your carefree days because once you’re married with a kid you’re in for hard work!
Amanda B. // Jan 5, 2005 at 11:43 am
You tell ‘em George. Some of those marriages work out, but I think it’s pretty healthy that you just want to be a single guy- out there experiencing life right now. Or just playing Xbox. Whichever. Rock on dude.
Holy Schmidt // Jan 5, 2005 at 12:12 pm
Or, you could find a super punk rock chick like me that loves to play PS2 and doesn’t mind when the hubby says, you can play the PS2 in the living room, if I can play the one in Seth’s room.
Marriage rocks!
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